Till the stars all burn away...

How long does it last? Can love be measured by the hours in a day? I have no answers, no but this much I can say. I am going to need him till the stars all burn away....

Melayu oh Melayu...

Harini saya nak taip dalam Bahasa Melayu sebab saya memang org Melayu.

Nak bagi definasi org Melayu ikut diri sendiri saya tak berani sebab isu siapa sebenar-benarnya org Melayu ni sensitip. Alamat masuk ISA pulak saya kalau terbagi definasi salah.

Saya sebenarnya gembira sebab selama ni tak bekerja gomen, kerja private. Sbb apa? sebab org Melayu ni banyak sgt politik saya kata. Kengkawan yang keje gomen jgn marah, ini pendapat saya sahaja, dan rujukan kepada pejabat gomen tu sebab mmg ramai org Melayu keje gomen, tapi sebenarnya keje mana-mana tempat yang ramai Melayu pun mmg akan ada isu sebegini. Bukan semua orang Melayu bermasalah, dan ramai sahaja kawan Melayu saya yang rajin tapi majoriti memang masih sebegini.

Saya dah nampak byk dah isu-isu politik yang tak perlu ni. Keje-keje mengipas bontot dan menghidu kentut ni saya tak suka. Saya suka buat keje diam-diam. Saya suka berdiskusi dan terkadang tidak bersetuju dengan pendapat bos saya, dan proses intelektual ini mengembangkan otak saya. Saya rasa terkesima bila ada rakan yang keje gomen mengadu yang setelah dia membangkang bosnya atas suatu isu, dia dapat markah SKT yang amat kasihan dan telah dimasukkan ke dalam senarai 'sejuk beku' pula. Alahai kasihannya rakan saya itu. Dan ini mungkin orang ketiga atau keempat yang menyatakan politik birokrasi di gomen ini memualkan sehingga tiada hak untuk bersuara langsung. Ramai juga telah berhenti kerana tidak sanggup menelan muntah politik setiap hari.

Kat pejabat saya ini pun ramai staf yang Melayu, dan sejak dua menjak ni, drama politikus Melayu mula menunjukkan tanda-tanda yang memualkan. Ini melibatkan pergaduhan antara staf. Saya tidak masuk campur dan hanya melihat sahaja, tapi alahai malu terkadang melihat bangsa sendiri.

Sudahlah kerja tidak bersungguh-sungguh, culas bila diminta melakukan sesuatu, selalu hilang tanpa dapat dikesan tanpa sebab. Sementelah ditegur, marah dan menumbuk dinding pula? Takkan tidak boleh langsung menerima teguran membina?

Org yang menegur pula telah menjadi subjek kebencian bukan sahaja orang yang ditegur, tetapi orang-orang lain yang mendengar cerita dari sebelah pihak sahaja. Hah, jadi sekarang ini menjadi perbualan hangat pula di halaman muka buku tentang orang yang menegur ini, yang antara lainnya termasuk:-

1. "Hah, org itu hanya tahu sembahyang tunggang-tonggek,tapi hati busuk"; dan

2. "Santau sahaja dia"

Sudahlah satu kumpulan yang terdiri dari orang yang tak tahu cerita kini menyokong satu pihak dan menyebarkan cerita yang tidak tentu kesahihannya, disyorkan pula aktiviti santau-menyantau antara sesama hamba Allah swt, maklumlah semuanya menganuti agama yang sama.

Alahai, kenapa mereka ini suka membuang masa dan menyakiti insan lain? Kenapa tidak mampu menerima teguran membina untuk menjadi insan yang lebih baik? Kenapa suka mengumpat pula? Dan sampai satu tahap rasanya seperti dah menjadi fitnah pula. Saya sekadar mampu geleng kepala sahaja.

Semasa hujung minggu jumpa kawan keluarga yang tengah bekerja di restoran di Puchong bercerita tentang kedai majikannya dibuat khianat oleh pengusaha restoran lain sebangsa juga, sampai orang yang lalu melihat seperti restorannya tutup, walhal kedai terbuka luas. Apa lagi kalau bukan hasad dengki menguasai diri? Ini juga kes pergi bomoh. Gelang kepala lagi.

Mahu tidak mahu, inilah dia stereotaip dan dilema orang Melayu bukan? Inilah sifat bangsa kita. Kita marah bila orang cakap kita berperangai sebegini, tetapi inilah kebenarannya dan realiti. Kita memang tak suka bila ditegur, maklumlah kita bangsa istimewa. Kita orang Melayu.

Bila kita cemburu dengan kejayaan orang sebangsa kita, kita pergi jumpa bomoh untuk hancurkan mereka. Kerana kita ingin apa yang miliknya menjadi milik kita.

Dan saya boleh gerenti nukilan saya ini akan membuat orang Melayu lain sensitif marah pula, sebab nanti saya dituduh membuka pekung di dada. Dan sebagai jawapan kepada itu, saya hanya mampu geleng kepala. Biarlah mereka dengan sensitiviti tak bertempat itu.

Bila agaknya minda kita akan berubah dan anjakan paradigma berlaku pada bangsa kita? Saya sendiri tidak pasti. Sudah beratus tahun kita bersifat begini, mampukah kita berfikir dengan cara yang berbeza?
Saya juga tidak pasti.

Saya sudah puas menaip dan menggeleng kepala hari ini. Masa untuk pulang.

Krabi Food [Part 3], Sareefah Kitchen

Ola ola!

I have been busy busy busy this early part of the week with the madness yet to end.

The office system was attacked by a worm causing havoc, tears of horror and disbelief and a lot of angry colleagues when their documents started disappearing hehehe.

Imagine me taking over conduct of an appeal on Tuesday with the Record of Appeal to be filed the next Monday and my Memorandum of Appeal literally disappeared on Friday when we wanted to finalise everything. Crying tears of grief right? Rushed like mad on Monday to get everything done. Verdict? I am working from my macbook and that is that. It will be a while before I have the confidence to work on my office PC again. Haha

Anyways, this post is supposed to be about Muslim halal food in Krabi. So here goes. On our last 2 nights there, Aries and I became hooked on this roadside restaurant/stall serving some 'knock your socks off' good Thai food. Enjoy the pics below:-

Charming deco hehehe 

Eating without doubt... 

 The condiments

Charming huts where the patrons eat their meals 

Ohhh, this is me berlagak agak poyo..haha. Kasi can la okie?

Aries' drink. Hot chocolate (I know, who orders Hot Chocolate in Krabi right? hahah) 

Watermelon juice for me.. 

Glass Noodle salad. It was absolutely DELICIOUS. I am still thinking about it right now. *Mouth Watering* 

The Sup Tulang. It was super spicy and sour and heavenly. 

This was a local vegetable, the name of which I forgot. It was just stir-fried with some clear gravy. The vegetables were slightly bitter but was complimented by the gravy really well. Yummers. 

The last night we were in Krabi, it rained cats and dogs and we could not go out until like 12.00 am. So we ate at this place again and naturally I did not take any pictures. Delicious.

Sareefah Seafood is situated up the road past starbucks and the petrol station and 7-eleven at Ao Nang town. Prices for food was the cheapest here compared to other eateries we ate in Krabi with really great food.

Siapa yang pergi Krabi nanti selamat mencuba! 

Online Shopping 2012 [Part 2]

I had a blast of a weekend but nothing to blog about much anyways.

I shall blog about my online shopping spree for Airiel plak.

These are from DDMS HomieBizz. Sale at RM20 each. 

Hari Suami Isteri

Selamat Hari Suami Isteri hari hari ok?

Eeeee....rasa gelilah plak. Takpe, couple yg halal boleh geli geleman

Ini plak muka Aries bila bini mintak handbag baru..hahaha ketat tak ketat!!!

Takpe, kalau ikhlas Tuhan akan bagi rezeki untuk handbag baru tersebut. Amin.

So selamat menyambut hari Suami Isteri semua!!

P.S - Hanya untuk org yang dah nikah ye, org yang dah kahwin tapi belum nikah errrkkk taklehla sambut hari Suami Isteri k? Dosa youuuuuuu

Pray for Syria

Friends of all races and religion.

Let us pray for Syria. May they be given strength to stand for what they believe in. And let us pray for ourselves, may we be as brave if we are ever put through this ordeal.

They have pledged their lives for change.

People celebrate love and valentine's day today. I celebrate love for those who fight for what they believe in. That is true love indeed.

Penangan Food Poisoning

Urrghh, last week Tuesday night I was struck by food poisoning during one of my and the hubs' outing to try out new places to eat. It was epic...

It was so bad that I had a case of tak tahan muntah and vomited on the stairs in my house all the way to the bathroom...It was so bad I vomited out of my nose. It was so bad that at one point of time I had stuff coming out of both ends of my body... AT THE SAME TIME.Yupp, epic proportions.

It was not half as bad as Bonda's food poisoning though. Hers (well, her worst one to date) lasted 3 days and she ended up having to CRAWL to the bathroom to vomit. She had to put a water drip on herself because she was so dehydrated. That was just crazy.

Why am I blogging about something so gross? Well, because it has changed my outlook on food since. At the moment, I cannot even look or smell food. All food I look at would make me want to vomit. I just can't bring myself to eat.This has lasted a week!

I am distressed as I consider myself quite the foodie!! And now I can't look at food at all without having a queasy tummy! I now eat small portions of bread, maybe fruit juices at a time but that's about all. At times my body craves sugar so bad, I sip small amounts of root beer but my mind and tummy just can't bear the thought of letting any food go down in my tummy.

I suppose when you have the memory of vomiting out of your nose because of food, you tend not to like food anymore!.

Hope this passes. Miss my old foodie self.

Online Shopping 2012 [Part 1]

What would my blog be without online shopping updates, right?

I know its february and a bit late for a first update. But my laziness has reached epic proportions.

Ok, here goes:-

 This crochet top is from MangoOrangie

This cute top which I absolutely fell in love with is from the Hanging Thread

1. Chiffon Pants; and 2. Cute Red Flower Maxi Dress. All from Vanity Dreams

To top it all off, I also bought:-

1. Serfontaine Jeans; and

2. A. G Goldschmied Jeans.

I bought some stuff for Airiel as well, but maybe in a a separate post. Enjoy the last day of the weekend everybody!

Who says Muslims are terrorists?

Get your facts straight please!!


Who started the first world war ? Muslims ? Who started the second world war ? Muslims ? 


Who killed about 20 millions of Aborigines in Australia ? Muslims ?? Who sent the nuclear 


bombs of Hiroshima and Nagasaki ? Muslims ?? Who killed more than 100 millions of Indians 


in North America ? Muslims ?? Who killed more than 50 millions of Indians in south America ? 


Muslims ?? Who took about 180 millions of African people as slaves and 88% of them died 


and was thrown in Atlantic ocean ? Muslims ?? No , They weren't Muslims!!! First of all, You 


have to define terrorism properly... If a non-Muslim do something bad..it is crime. But if a 


Muslim commits the same..he is terrorist... So first remove this double standard...then come to 


the point!!!




Please remove this double standard.


Happy Friday everybody.


This quote was taken off Taher Yahya Saeed from Facebook.

My long weekend

My boys

A date where records where broken and strength tested...

 Time with those who matter...

The Read Beanbag & Hot & Rolls, Solaris Dutamas

The Red Beanbag has been open a while at my workplace, so I decided to try it out.

A blackboard that states the specials of the day 

Open kitchen flanked with gunny sacks as the decor...charming 

the menu is glued on pieces of boxes, how creative! 

I ordered the Don Scallopino as a Main 

Yellow Submarine was the drink I ordered 

Ahh, my yellow submarine was so refreshing 

Rather huge portion of risotto which I couldn't finish. I loved the rich texture of the risotto but as it was rather rich, I realised early on that I should have ordered the entree portion 

Farah Shu's order, the Crustacean Cousin. 

And what would a meal be without chilli flakes? *Grin* 

Hot & Roll is now open in Publika!! This was what I had for an evening snack. Satay Chicken savoury wrap is the bomb!! So addictive..

Last post on Krabi food will be posted soon!! Promise and Promise!

It's a man's world out there..

I don't know why most of my friends would tell me and ask for my advice when having any marital issues. Maybe they know from my blog that I have faced them before and as I have survived, they would want to know how.

A dear friend is going through some tough times and permanent changes in her life. I hope she is strong enough to go through it.

Honestly, I am baffled by the amount of broken families, cheating spouses and marital problems that I have encountered in the short period that I have been on this earth.

We see lectures in TV, radio and facebook about the responsibilities and/or duties of a woman but I find that there so very little talk about the responsibilities and/or duties of a man. Is it because when a female ustazah talks about the responsiblities of a man, people think she must be emotional? And why doesn't the ustaz talk about it more? Is it because he is a man? I don't know. Shouldn't the man be the focus, as they are the leaders and protectors and are supposed to lead us?

I don't know, I have seen families broken in front of my eyes because a husband forgets his financial responsibilities, his filial obligations, his role as a father. Tergila-gilakan perempuan yang bukan halal baginya sampai lupa segala. Mengejar harta-benda sampai lupa agama. Mahukan kebebasan dari keluarga yang melemaskan kononnya tapi tidak tahu batasannya.

A man once told me,  that a woman can forgive a cheating husband but a man cannot forgive a cheating wife because we are built differently. And I asked him, is that really so? How are we built differently? Does it mean that women feel less pain when she finds out her husband is having sex with another woman and/or women and the man feels more pain when he finds out that his wife is having sex with another man and/or men?

The man kept quiet. I am sure that he knows deep down, the pain felt for us females is the same as felt by the men. But why do we women stay? I don't know. Maybe we look at the faces of our children and cannot bear to have them grow up without a father. Would a man care about that? I mean if he divorces his wife, he wouldn't have the baggage of having to take care of this children. The ex-wife would. He could just remarry and start over. See your kids once a week, pay a monthly allowance (and some don't even do that). Pretty easy upkeep for a child you are supposed to be responsible for bringing into this world kan? Maybe that's why its easier for the men to leave as they have less to think about.

I tell my friends, whatever you do..make sure you have means to an income. Jangan duduk rumah sahaja harapkan suami. You know the man who shares your bed, the father of your children...how many of them actually think housework is WORK? They come home, complain they're tired, sit themselves in front of the TV and they merely work a 12 hour day maximum. What about you, the housewife who works 24 hours, round the clock. Non-stop?

I had a friend whose husband looked down upon his wife and made a snide comment about her being a housewife. I told her to conduct a social experiment. I told her to start charging her husband for  everything she does. The husband said ok. So she charged what a dobi would charge for washing clothes, ironing of all the family's clothes. She charged normal gerai rates for all the food she cooked and the drinks she made. She charged standard house cleaner rates for all the housework that she did.

I told her to itemise everything and put it in an official bill to her husband and at the end of the week when the bill was presented to her husband, her husband looked at the itemised bill, popped his eyes and realised how he could not afford his wife had she charged him for everything that she did. He said sorry and has never made a comment about his wife being a housewife ever since. She tells me he is now very appreciative of what she does.

No guys, this is not about telling wives to berkira dengan suami, this is about getting husbands to wake up and appreciate what their wives do for them.

And so yes, I tell my friends to have an income. And one friend tells me of a new dilemma she faces after having an income. When she wants some duit belanja dari suami, you know what the suami says? 'Apa jadi dengan duit gaji hang bebanyak tu?' . So now, not only does she work and have to do housework. She gets no financial help from her husband because her husband uses the fact that she has a job to squeeze himself out of it.

Dari Abu Bakrah bahawa Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda:”suatu kaum tidak akan beruntung kerana mereka menyerahkan urusan-urusan mereka kepada wanita”. (H.R Bukhary, Tarmizi dan Nasa’i)

I almost fell off my chair. I tell my friend, then take what you need only without his knowledge. She almost fell of her chair hahaha.

Dari aisyah r.a berkata: sesungguhnya Hindun datang kepada Rasulullah lalu berkata: “wahai Rasulullah. Abu Sufyan adalah orang yang kikir dan tidak mahu memberikan kepadaku belanja yang cukup untukku dan anakku, sehingga terpaksa aku ambil dari hartanya tanpa pengetahuannya”. Lalu Baginda bersabda: “ambillah sekadar cukup untuk dirimu dan anakmu dengan wajar”. (H.R Bukhary dan Muslim)

Haa, lelaki di luar sana, jangan asyik pasal hadith dan ayat Quran pasal nak kahwin lagi satu jer ye. Ingat hadith ni sekali. Know that your wife can take your money without your knowledge for their needs and children's needs. Yang isteri plak, janganlah ambil melampau sgt. Asal cukup makan dan minum dan pakai anak-anak ok?

For the men who loves to keluar lewat-lewat malam untuk suka suki joli, tipu bini cakap pergi ceramah kat masjid tapi sebenarnya gi karaoke red box dengan God knows who:-

Dari Jabir: Nabi s.a.w melarang suami mengetuk pintu keluarganya pada malam hari,
melarang berkhianat kepada mereka atau mencari-cari kesalahan mereka. (H.R Muslim)

Haaa, balik rumah jgn dok jerit jerit marah bini suruh buka pintu. Dok menipu khianat bagai Nabi marah ok?

Sigh...I realise that we are living in a man's world. We have reversed all the work our revered Prophet has done to liberate and elevate women to a higher level and freedom. Years of cultural brainwash in a male dominated Malay society where the actions of a man are never questioned and where men, relishing in the position they have been afforded to, forgets that they were put there in the first place for a reason, and not just because of the fact that they are men.

I truly believe that the downfall of our society is due to faulty leaders, leaders of our country, leaders of our religion, leaders of society and leaders of our family. Jika tiada pemimpin yang berkaliber, yang arif hukum dan tanggungjawab mereka di sisi agama, bagaimana org di bawah pimpinan mahu mengikut? Who do they emulate? Who do they follow?

“Kamu semua adalah penjaga dan kamu akan ditanya tentang jagaannya. Imam (pemerintah) adalah penjaga dan akan ditanya tentang jagaannya. Lelaki adalah penjaga keluarganya dan dia akan ditanya tentang jagaannya. Wanita adalah penjaga di rumah suaminya dan dia akan ditanya tentang jagaannya. Khadam adalah penjaga dan dia akan ditanya tentang jagaannya. Kamu semua adalah penjaga dan kamu akan ditanya tentang jagaan kamu.” Riwayat al-Bukhari dan Muslim daripada Abdullah bin Umar.

My girls, sama-samalah kita berdoa agar kita telah memilih imam yang baik sebagai suami kita yang dapat membimbing kita and our children dan tahu tanggungjawab mereka.

My boys, I hope that you will be the best husband, father, leader to the family, to the community, society and the country.

Amin

Krabi Food [Part 2] - Baan Lay Thai Kitchen

Ok, as promised...Krabi food updates!

Baan Lay Thai restaurant was located right beside an elevated stretch of Ao Nang beach so the view was just sublime!!

 My 'we turn 4' sunset...

The waiters and waitresses here know a bit of Malay. Anyways...on to the food

Coconut and watermelon

Plump oysters for Aries. Fresh as the sea he says. 

Oyster condiments

Beef salad, this was quite yummy

Papaya salad. I was disappointed with this dish. It was bland, obviously toned down to suit the tastes of the western tourists who thinks hot chilli is cabai merah yg besar tu...hahaha

Tom yam was bland too

One of the hits, the steamed squid was a hit, not over cooked and reasonably flavoured to leave a tangy taste in your mouth.

The view is great but the food has more misses than hits. Eat here if you want the 'toned down for the tourists' kinda food. 

Ohh yeah, the food here was the most expensive we had in the whole trip. I think we paid for the view...heheh