There is a calender of words of wisdom and thoughts on life given by a friend who was really close to me in law school..
She was indeed a friend in every sense of the word.
This calender has been on my table since my chambering days and almost 3 years later when I have become a full fledged legal practitioner, it remains... as a testament to how much I value her friendship..
She was instrumental in getting me to accept Aries in my life. Indeed, at certain times when Aries could not handle me (I am notoriously difficult , he would agree :-P), Aries would call her for help. I used to think that he had her on speed dial..heheh
I think in some ways, and this applies equally to men and women alike that we tend to put our friends on the backburner when you are in a relationship..deny it all you want but inevitably... it just happens.. you tend to put your partner, spouse e.t.c. first. I am guilty of this as well.
Some friends react by having outbursts to get your attention, but she was not one of those.. when she saw me happy..I think it was enough for her... and she slowly retreated, not wanting to get in the way..
Neither me or Aries have heard from her for almost 4 years... and I get pangs that strikes me at the very centre of my heart at times, when I think of how I have lost the friendship that I so cherished..
Sigh..
Sam, If your somehow stumble upon this blog or post, know that I have not forgotten you or 'us'.
I want to show you my son.
I want to know what is going on in your life.
Lets reconnect.
Last but not least... I am sorry for neglecting our friendship, I am but human.. but one who has realised what she has lost.
Please take care wherever you are.
That calender you gave me, will remain on my table for as long as I am alive.
Hugs & Kisses
Idza
